Have you ever had the heart ache of a lost friend? Where your paths parted?
Time to talk about life cycles of another sort…friendships that have run their course :(
I recently stumbled upon a post about a book on one of my recent favorite Facebook sites called "Literary Mama". The book is called "The Other Ex: Women's True Stories of Losing and Leaving Friends"by Jessica Smock and Stephanie Sprenger.
Its is a collection of non-fiction stories about women and breakups with woman friends in their lives. I immediately downloaded it to my kindle and have read over 1/2 of it with piqued interest.
The subject matter appealed to me because over the past several years, I have parted ways with several girl friends and found myself floundering around wondering how to recover. Having a break up with a close female friend is an experience that isn't talked or written about much in mainstream literature. And it can leave the parties in the friendship feeling discouraged, let down, disappointed that things didn't work out better.
Ever more, There is a sense that you "did something wrong" if a female friendship doesn't work out. And a societal expectation of sorts that as women we should nurture and care for everyone. But the reality is that just isn't true. There are some friendships which aren't positive, or don't help us become better people. Or they just expire and have run their course. And in the past several years I've experienced a dose of all of those and have been able to step away and realize its best to not put wasted energies into those relationships. There is no shame in that. It was very validating to read the stories of women and their heartbreaks with friendships.
Heres to good friendships which fuel the soul!
And knowing when to surrender in friendships when one person is holding on out of a sense of obligation. Letting go can be a very good thing…